You know this marriage thing is all about surrender, right?
No matter how much of a control freak we are, eventually, everyone must surrender. Some of us surrender more in our lives than others. Some of us surrender by fighting it every step of the way. Some of us surrender regularly without thought. But all of us, at one time or another, must surrender. That’s not a bad thing, when it’s done in the right manner. One definition of surrender in Webster’s dictionary is: to give up completely or agree to forgo especially in favor of another. (Emphasis added) This is something that we should be doing regularly, especially with our spouses. If you’re anything like me, you might equate surrender with war movies where the losing side waves the white flag and just gives up. They give in to the demands and complete occupation of the enemy. When God talks about surrender that was not what He expected. Notice the emphasis I’ve placed on the definition, especially in favor of another. That seems to imply selflessness doesn’t it? We should surrender our selfish wants and needs in favor of our beloved. If you are thinking, that still sounds like the white flag and everything, then look at it from this perspective – what if your beloved did that for you? Your spouse surrenders their selfishness in favor of you? That is the epitome of love. The Bible says in John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends”. (NKJV) Now I am talking about everyday life, not the idea of laying down your total life, but the idea is the same. There is no greater love than when we give of ourselves to another, particularly our spouse. There is no greater love than when we surrender ourselves to God and His will for our lives. That is how my marriage story begins… with surrender.
Do you surrender readily or, are you like me, kicking and screaming most of the way?