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“Q” is for Quality Time

Thinking back to when you first started dating your spouse, do you remember wanting to spend a lot of time together?

The longer you are a couple, the more life tends to get in the way of spending quality time together.  It is important that you make being together a priority in your marriage.  Many experts will tell you to have regular date nights with your spouse.  Many couples laugh at that advice.  With the economy being questionable, some couples have trouble paying their bills, let alone going out on dates.  Couples with young children can have trouble getting a babysitter, affording a babysitter, or just being able to leave their little ones with someone else.  Some couples have so many obligations outside of their marriage that they don’t have the time or the inclination to spend an evening out.  Don’t get me wrong, having a date night with your spouse is good advice. I believe you should do that. But that is just one way to spend quality time with each other.

Let’s take a look at the root of this advice – spending time together.  Don’t let your ideas on this be boxed in by what the experts tell you or what other people around you are doing.  Your marriage is unique and, as such, you need to find those things that uniquely fit your relationship.  This could be a “date night”.  This could be the two of you watching your favorite TV show every week.

You definitely should spend one-on-one time together, but you can also spend quality time together in the midst of others.  My husband and I have spent quality time with each other by taking our children to the park.  You can spend quality time together being at home.  I have spent many summer evenings sitting outside on my back patio with my husband while the children were inside doing their own thing.

Even taking care of adult business can be turned into quality time with each other by doing errands together or working together on home projects.  I knew a couple whose quality time together was when the children were occupied, the husband was working in the garage, and the wife sat in her spot near the workbench just hanging out in the same place as her husband. The point is that there are many possibilities and you should take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself for you to spend quality time together.

-Loraine Nunley

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